“When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but creatures of emotion.” – Dale Carnegie
It has been said that until you learn to control your emotions, they will control you. This is because virtually all human behavior is motivated by the pain/pleasure principle, which states that:
“All behavior is driven either by the act of seeking some perceived pleasure or the avoidance of perceived pain and the avoidance of pain is virtually always a stronger driver than the possibility of pleasure.”
When looked at through this lens it becomes clear why fear and other negative emotional states are such powerful and often self-limiting and self-destructive forces in our lives: negative emotional states are uncomfortable, and often painful to experience, which means we will avoid people, situations and circumstances that trigger them like the plague.
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It has been said that until you learn to control your emotions, they will control you. This is because virtually all human behavior is motivated by the pain/pleasure principle, which states that:
“All behavior is driven either by the act of seeking some perceived pleasure or the avoidance of perceived pain and the avoidance of pain is virtually always a stronger driver than the possibility of pleasure.”
When looked at through this lens it becomes clear why fear and other negative emotional states are such powerful and often self-limiting and self-destructive forces in our lives: negative emotional states are uncomfortable, and often painful to experience, which means we will avoid people, situations and circumstances that trigger them like the plague.
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